Make every day Valentine’s Day for your loved one

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner; it’s a special day to let your special someone know just how much you care.

Dr. Gary Lewandowski studies relationships at Monmouth University and says Valentine’s Day is fine, but the real opportunity, and work,

come the other 364 days per year.

“As someone who studies and talks about relationships and writes about relationships, you know, it’s one of those things that everyone just assumes that I absolutely love Valentine’s Day,” says Lewandowski.”

I think any day you can take advantage of stepping back, evaluating, celebrating, improving your relationship is a good day now. I don’t think that necessarily has to be on the 14th day of the second month of the year. I think it should be something that we should make regular time for. You should have a Valentine’s Day, a relationship celebration day, so to speak, you know, at least once a month, it needs to be a regular event.”

“The work that you put into your relationship is worth it. The very best relationships take work. It’s one of the biggest myths. It’s one of the things I talk about in my book. We just assume wrongly that the very best relationships take no effort, right? We kind of put our relationship on autopilot. We take our relationship for granted. It’s so easy because our partner is so close to us, and we know that they love us to prioritize — almost every other aspect of our life. Yet our relationship is one of the most important things in our life, and so we need to make it a priority,” he says.

Dr. Lewandowski is the author of the book “Stronger Than You Think, The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship and How To See Past Them.”